We use the weights used for the Middle School State Tournament. However, the coaches for the teams in our area and I sit down before the dual meet and make sure our good wrestlers go against each other and lesser experienced kids wrestle each other whenever possible. We have 5th through 8th graders and our elementary schools do not have sports, so this has worked really well for us in keeping our numbers high.
We appreciate the schools we wrestle (Madison, Highland Hills, Jennings County, Hazelwood, Corydon, New Washington, Southwestern, Paoli, River Valley, Charlestown, and Parkview) for working with us to keep kids interested in the sport, because too many beat downs for a 5th grader is the easiest way to lose them forever!