I, as a head coach, totally understand this. I preach effort more than wins and loses to both of my girls. My oldest went 0-2 got 2nd her first year, went 2-0 last year and won and went 3-2 and got 3rd this year experiencing her first real set back that we all know won't stop coming. My youngest went 1-2 this year and placed third. And both got the annual dipping dots at the end.
But like others have noted parents are a driving factor. I love the sport of wrestling and I was even frustrated having my daughters first bout #2 and second at #70, yes you read that right a 68 match break.
Kids at a young age understand having success and not. And getting beat 5 times in a day is going effect most kids even if they have supportive parents.
I run our youth program as well I think there is a fine line between attending events to get your feet wet and going to too many before your ready. We loved our friendship meets this year and it allows all of your kids to support each other.