This is a tough topic for many reasons
1st: Humans are not perfect, nor should we expect them to be
2nd: Refs are a starved market: I agree, initially new (younger) refs may not solve everything...but it has to happen! ALOT of the refs still doing this have significant arthritic conditions that prevent them from getting into the right positions to make calls, the only way to fix that is newer/younger refs
Also, I completely agree with the statement that wrestling has changed...there is a definite nuance to the complicated scrambles today's wrestlers get into and knowing when to blow the whistle/call a takedown/stop for potentially dangerous, etc is more complicated than ever...I can't pretend to know these things, but do believe that newer refs that grew up wrestling this way would have better understanding
My main issue, is that at times it seems like the issue is EGO over error...as mentioned above, the ref in question was offered the opportunity to correct the situation and chose not to take that opportunity. There were other times in the tourney where other officials did change their call and got it right...I think the referees should have a procedure in place to at least report that the asst. saw differently in order to possibly see patterns of behavior...e.g: 10 different asst. referees report seeing calls differently and none were reversed...EGO...I also believe that coaches/parents should have an avenue to report at least Behavior by referees...if it exists, I haven't found it, but there was an instance earlier in season where an official was refereeing a heavyweight match...it happened to be between my son and Mr. Schott's son from above...the referee during the match on out of bounds and restarts slapped both boys on their backsides at least once apiece, twice for my son...which most might say encouraging them to keep going, however there was nothing encouraging about it... the entire match he was calling the "Ladies" and "Nancies" and calling them both for stalling and telling them to stop dancing and try wrestling...these are 2 ranked heavyweights, beating on each other!! The match went to OT and he swatted my son again, brought them both back to the circle and said: "Now one of you ladies is going home!" which was ridiculous, as it wasn't a tourney and both boys had 4 more dual meets left to wrestle! There should be an avenue to report issues and behavior like that, best I could find was leave an email for the generic IHSAA website, but they dont even promise a response...It was just an ugly example of someone's EGO trumping the kids and their effort...my wife almost got tossed from the event trying to get his name...but he shouldnt be slapping the kids or being degrading to them for all their effort, because I dare him to put his toe on the line with either one of them. Most of the refs are very nice and I appreciate them doing it, but there needs to be some recourse to protect against the bad apples for everyones sake