cubwrestlingfan1 Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 I am a parent of a 17 yr old and a 19 yr old. I got them started in wrestling by giving them a chance to wrestling while in 1st and 3rd grade AAU. I took them, I coached them, but I knew there was a time coming for me to finally be a parent. I respect what our coaches do, even at times I may not agree with them. I dont sit on the bench or behind my son, but I do yell loudly so they can hear me . lol.. I seen what can happen to a wrestler when an oppents parent and brother are sitting coaching in high school, my son was put in an illegal move, and out with a concusion for 2 weeks because of them telling him what to do. I perfer to just yell from the stands and hope and pray, that both wrestlers dont come out hurt, even though i would like to be closer to get better pictures lol.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meto Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Parents have a unique ability to ruin a kid's pure love of a sport by becoming overly involved. They need to back off an let their child wrestle as their coach sees fit. i agree Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldbuckeye Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 One point that is being missed here; if a parent is setting on the bench and makes a comment that would receive an a flagrant misconduct; then that would go against the Head Coach. The first making it so that the coach could not leave his seat and the second one the Head Coach would be forced to leave the met. All because of the parent. Only team personal that the Head Coach is responsible for should be on or near the bench. Or at the side of the mat! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mowingmama83 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I personally am one of those parents who stand the sideline when my son is wrestling. When we are at meets, the team is sitting in chairs on each side of the mat across from the other team (unless it is conference or a super duel etc...) When my son is wrestling, I am along side the mat video taping/yelling at my son as our coach does not really coach from his chair in the corner of the mat. He does not really say anything to our wrestlers until the end of the period and then he claps and tells our wreslters to "keep up the good work". Sometimes, the only "coaching" my son gets is from his teammates or from me because we are there on the sidelines. I have never been "removed" or cost my team any points as I usually take my anger back to the bleachers and let it out there with the rest of the parents. I feel that parents (if they can control themselves and act like a mature adult) should be allowed by the mat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MustangVoodoo1 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I usually take my anger back to the bleachers and let it out there with the rest of the parents. I feel that parents (if they can control themselves and act like a mature adult) should be allowed by the mat. Do these two things really go together? Badmouthing the coach in the stands, and acting like a mature adult? Attitudes of wrestlers generally come from their parents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GloryDays66 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Coaches are there to coach, everyone has his own style to the sport, let them coach. If the coach needs something from a wrestler's parents (example: the kid's seriously hurt), he will get you. These guys are in high school, its time to let go a little, talk to them after the meet. If the coach needs you on his staff, I'm sure he will ask you to help coach the whole team not just your son and for you to come everyday to practice, too. After that I call this "the John Elway Rule", Elway tolded his son's HS coach he was going to be the qb coach for his son while he was in school and the coach agreed because Elway has the rings to get the coach to agree that idea. So the way, I see it unless you have something similar to a couple Super Bowl rings, stay in the stands. If your not happy about something take it up with the coach, they might listen, they might not. But approach your coach in a civil manner with an open mind, if you want the coach to listen to you and your thoughts. Bad mouthing your coach does nothing but hurt the hurt the team, have some respect for the time and effort the coaches are putting in during the season. Its good for parents to share their passion for the sport with your kids, it can make them a better wrestler, I feel, by doing so. Now remember this though, your glory days on the high school mat are like mine OVER, its time to let your kids have their time to shine, don't be a distraction to that by trying to take over the coach's job the day of the meet even if you don't think you are, YOU ARE. If your needed the coach will let you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grecoref Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I agree with GloryDays. If you are needed the coach will let you know. Only team personel should be permitted on the bench or in the corner. In all my years as a referee, including all competions, the most grief I have ever been given was from parents who have no clue about wrestling...the rules...the technique...nothing about the sport at all other than little Johnny didn't win the XYZ club tournament so it must be the ref's fault. I was also a head coach for a high school in Ohio. I didn't then, nor would I now, allow anyone other than team personal on my bench. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldman Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I personally am one of those parents who stand the sideline when my son is wrestling. I would have killed my mother if she did this to me(not in the literal sense). Let the kids do what they love, encourage them, but stay out of it. They're in high school for goodness sake. How are they ever going to develop into strong, independent-minded men if their mommy or daddy is on the sidelines? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mowingmama83 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Unfortunately, my son wants me there on the sideline. I am sorry that so many feel offended but I do what my son wants. I guess I also need to clarify my statement about taking my anger back to the bleachers. When I go back to the stands, there is no yelling at the coaches or the refs, it is talk amongst we parents about things like why did he not shoot, why did he reach back, why did he let go of the leg, etc.. I guess using the word anger was not the best word to use. You have to understand that unfortunately our coach is not a coach. At practice, he has the "stars" of the team coaching practice and when it comes to a meet, the other wrestlers on the team are the ones that are standing (laying/sitting) on the edge of the mat cheering/coaching our wrestlers on. My son has learned more this year from working with a Junior than he has our coach. Our coach never leaves his chair and sits there the entire match with his arms crossed over his belly. I do yell at my son and it would be no different than if I was in the stands. I yell things like "get your arm out of there, stand up" etc. These are things that when you sit in the stands, you here parents yelling to their child. My son does not mind this and neither does the coach. Our coach has taken the philosophy that if a wrestler does tournament wrestling, than there is nothing that he can really offer. This started in middle school with my son and when I questioned it, I was told that since my son is in tournament wrestling, he would not need any coaching from him. My son likes to watch the videos that I tape from the sideline after we get home so we can discuss where he went wrong or look at what a good job he did. This is kinda a "bonding" thing with us because this is one thing that him and I can do that no one else is interested in and he gets upset when I don't go to his meets. I have been doing this since he was in the 5th grade and will continue to do this until he graduates. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoosierTrip Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I'd always be so embarassed when my parents would be on the sidelines. My mom would be half drunk most the time yelling like a damn idiot. The kind of yelling people in the gym would stop to stare at. Then once my dad ran on the mat when I beat a kid ranked 2nd in state. Totally ruining the moment for me. Please parents stay on the sidelines. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GloryDays66 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 mowingmama83 sounds like you need to get your parents together and take your concerns to the school's AD. If a coach feels he has nothing to offer some of his wrestlers and this is what you were saying, why is he coaching? If my son's coach told my son or me this you better believe it would of been addressed with the coach and then maybe talk with the AD. At every level in every sport a coach should feel it is his DUTY to make ALL of his players better from the best to the worst. Even the pro's still have a coaching staff for a reason. This is not intended to be negative, but in my opinion the tape is better from an angle higher in the in the stands (I feel with a little zoom and an overhead view you can see more, less blind spots on the tape). Most schools tape their matches to learn from them, some use more than one location for when the ref blocks the view, yes I agree with on the video being a good tool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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