Unfortunately, my son wants me there on the sideline. I am sorry that so many feel offended but I do what my son wants. I guess I also need to clarify my statement about taking my anger back to the bleachers. When I go back to the stands, there is no yelling at the coaches or the refs, it is talk amongst we parents about things like why did he not shoot, why did he reach back, why did he let go of the leg, etc.. I guess using the word anger was not the best word to use. You have to understand that unfortunately our coach is not a coach. At practice, he has the "stars" of the team coaching practice and when it comes to a meet, the other wrestlers on the team are the ones that are standing (laying/sitting) on the edge of the mat cheering/coaching our wrestlers on. My son has learned more this year from working with a Junior than he has our coach. Our coach never leaves his chair and sits there the entire match with his arms crossed over his belly. I do yell at my son and it would be no different than if I was in the stands. I yell things like "get your arm out of there, stand up" etc. These are things that when you sit in the stands, you here parents yelling to their child. My son does not mind this and neither does the coach. Our coach has taken the philosophy that if a wrestler does tournament wrestling, than there is nothing that he can really offer. This started in middle school with my son and when I questioned it, I was told that since my son is in tournament wrestling, he would not need any coaching from him. My son likes to watch the videos that I tape from the sideline after we get home so we can discuss where he went wrong or look at what a good job he did. This is kinda a "bonding" thing with us because this is one thing that him and I can do that no one else is interested in and he gets upset when I don't go to his meets. I have been doing this since he was in the 5th grade and will continue to do this until he graduates.